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Originally Posted by mary_low
Sara-
I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think this is about cravings. I binge, and it's not about the actual food, and I don't always eat high-carb foods. After doing strict induction for 2 weeks, I still got these twinges where I wanted to binge. The thing about Atkins is, because I didn't have to count calories, I would think it was okay for me to eat these massive amounts of food. And maybe it is okay for someone who doesn't have a binging problem. But for me it was unacceptable, and made me even more depressed, and even though I didn't have cravings, I had the desire to binge. I know you think that this is a simple matter of not following the plan correctly, and having cravings, but as someone who goes through this every day, I'm telling you that's not what it is. It's much bigger than that, and not easily fixed with a week of induction. A week of induction is like the warrior diet and any other thing one might try to justify their behavior. It covers up the real problem without repairing anything. This has to be a life change for those of us who binge, not a week of induction or any other band-aid we might come across.
I do love the idea of a notebook. If I had to read all of the things I felt when I binged or felt like it, I think it would keep me from it.
Mary
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Mary,
I'm sorry for the way I made it sound so simple. I apologize for the somewhat "pat" reply I posted. You're right, it's not simply a matter of counting carbs.
Believe it or not, I *do* understand what you're talking about, and perhaps I should flesh out my original response a bit more.
Here goes...
I've spent nearly five years in recovery from bulimia and compulsive eating. Two of those years, I was seeing a therapist (1-2x per week) who was a specialist in eating disorders. At the same time, I was going to a hospital support group run by an organization called "ANAD" (Awareness Network around Disordered Eating) at Lion's Gate Hospital in North Vancouver BC.
I've read all the Geneen Roth books, I've gone to workshops, 12-step groups and seen numerous doctors and specialists to deal with my eating disorder.
I've worked through a *lot* of stuff, and yet....
For me personally, a *huge* part of this was the discovery that sugar and refined carbohydrates was indeed a major trigger/contributing factor in my disordered way of eating/exercising.
The beginning stages of my recovery from disordered eating were all about not dieting or overexercising. My counselor would repeatedly ask me to sign contracts promising I wouldn't diet.
Of course, I binged the whole time, which is how I came to gain all this weight in the first place.
But my counselor kept telling me that I first had to deal with the fact that by dieting/overexercising/taking laxatives etc., I was compensating for my binges. I couldn't deal with the bingeing until I took away that compensating behaviour.
The dieting and overexercising was all about self-hatred and guilt after a major binge cycle.
Funny thing is - how could I nuture myself enough to stop the bingeing if I was tormenting myself with guilt & self-hatred after a binge? So the whole idea became about allowing myself to overeat without compensating for it, without hating myself afterwards.
Then, and only then - could I nuture myself enough to deal with the reason I was overeating in the first place, which...in my case, was fear of my own feelings. Not wanting to feel, not wanting to hear, not wanting to see, not wanting to "know" what my spirit was trying to say.
Bingeing (for me) is about shoving my feelings aside, covering them up...smoothing them over. It's about a bad feeling inside...and smothering that bad feeling with food. Shutting it all down.
Making that feeling (whatever it was) shut the hell up...because I couldn't handle it. Or so I thought.
Make sense?
Now how in the world would I ever feel safe enough to "go there" if I was continually beating myself up in a hailstorm of self-hatred over having binged?
So the counselor was right (in my case) to coach me through to the point where I was able to stop the practice of compensating for bingeing with self-destructive dieting/overexercising and truly hateful self-talk.
This is where the Geneen Roth books came into play.
I learned to simply be aware of the bingeing...without heaping piles of guilt and hatred on myself. I became friends with me again by way of allowing myself to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.
Oddly...this had the effect of increasing my feeling of safety.
I could go to my counselling sessions and talk about things that I couldn't face before...knowing that I could go home and pig out. I could go home and shut it all off again.
When I began to express concern about the amount of bingeing I was doing, my counselor would say things like, "It's ok, we'll deal with that, but first we need to deal with (insert previously ignored issue)".
And so it went.
I gained a ton of weight, and went from 109 lbs. to more than 200lbs. during that time period.
Frightening isn't it?
But...the really scary thing wasn't the weight, but rather...feeling my feelings. I was far more afraid of my own feelings than I ever was about gaining weight.
Here's where it gets interesting.
I managed to get some semblance of control over my overeating, but would still binge occasionally.
Here's where the low-carb thing comes into play. And for me, it's very important.
Yes, I ate a lot of food during the first couple of weeks of induction. I took Dr. Atkins' instructions seriously in that I certainly did *not* worry about calories. I ate and and ate and ate. Everything from bacon-wrapped filet mignons to hollandaise covered eggs.
It didn't work.
It worked about as well as a glass of club soda "works" for a stuggling alcoholic left alone with his or her feelings for awhile.
Suddenly, I didn't have a way out, a means of shutting things down.
Yet...the physical cravings subsided after about 10 days.
All that was left were the emotional cravings.
Speaking of which...I think of 'emotional eating' as '
unemotional eating' because that's what it really is...at least for me.
By allowing myself to eat as much as I wanted (of induction acceptable foods) during those first weeks, I clued into how well sugar and refined carbohydrates do the "job" of getting rid of my feelings.
I really wasn't hungry. I mean...I was eating tons and tons of induction acceptable foods..and nothing was "working" for me.
During the last several months, I've learned how to get real with my feelings. No, I'm not saying it's been some miracle as a result of low-carbing...I know for a fact that those years of counselling and eating disorder support groups made a huge difference too. At least, those things helped me become aware, got me talking and feeling again.
I'm even more emotional these days. And I think that's healthy, I really do.
It's unhealthy not to feel.
Speaking of which - did you see that thread in the "War Zone" where that guy had asked if anyone experienced an increase in anxiety and depression as a result of low-carb eating?
I wanted to reply to that thread because it really wasn't all that surprising to me that by taking away the one thing that "works" for a person in terms of smothering one's own feelings practically to death, one could easily end up with a fair amount of anxiety. I didn't reply because it seemed like the original poster had disappeared.
Anyway...I'm getting off topic here.
So to wind up this rather long post of mine, I'd like to say once again...
Going back to induction might actually help.
And I *know* lotsa people will still eat a ton of food even if they're sticking with plan.
And I also don't think it'll "work", if you know what I mean.
Once again, sorry if my previous post seemed rather pat or simplistic.
Sara
PS - here's some resource links that might be of interest:
http://www.anad.org/site/anadweb/ (main ANAD page)
http://www.geneenroth.com/ (Geneen Roth)
http://www3.telus.net/anad01/index.shtml (British Columbia ANAD page)
http://www.stpaulseatingdisorders.ca/mission.htm (St. Paul's ED Clinic)
http://www.something-fishy.org/ (good support site)