Tunkany,
I have been where you are. I had eczema on my hands for years. It was so painful and nothing helped it. From what I've read it's lactose/wheat (not having the right bacteria inside to digest either). For me, adding yogurt to my diet cured me (I did SCDiet for a while). I only use coconut oil and olive too. And the castle soap. And vinegar instead of bleach...

You might want to check out SCD diet, they claim its the healthiest diet, even for small children.

I too am trying to get my son to eat healthier. UG! At least he is not loaded with vegetable oils..but it's one day at a time to get him to eat well. Better late than never! (He loves the cookies on SCD plan.)